I attended the Smile at Fear Retreat with Pema Chodron presented by Shambhala on the weekend of October 15-17 in San Francisco. This video is the second of a series to share what I learned from this experience and how we might apply her teachings in our everyday lives.
The main points I cover in this video are:
- We fear uncertainty more than we fear pain.
- We deal with this uncertainty either by speeding up or by becoming very lazy.
- What lies underneath this fear of uncertainty is our own self-doubt.
- Meditation helps us learn to stay present when we are on shaky ground.
- The basis of fearlessness is knowing fear.
HERE IS A QUESTION FOR YOU: When you are feeling this shaky ground of uncertainty, what do you tend to do? Do you speed up, stay busy, multi-task, take action — even if that action may not be the right thing to do? Or do you slow down, go numb, hide out, and get very little done? How can (or do) you help yourself get grounded and stay present, not going to either extreme?